CANDY WASHINGTON

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How To Bring Your Friendship Circle Closer Than Ever

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Hi lovelies,

Friends are important, wouldn’t you agree? Without people close to us, we wouldn’t be able to feel the same sense of warmth whenever something good happens to us. Life is always better when you get to share with those you care about. We’re a species that likes to bond with others. We’ve always been a communal group – our earliest ancestors all travelled around together; it’s in our nature. Sure, you may not see your pals as often as you’d like to these days, but they’re still just as important as they always were.

Within your group of friends, there might be a little friction or awkwardness in some areas. This isn’t a strange and uncommon thing. Different people like different things, and separate personalities might clash even in the tightest of bonds. This isn’t an issue at all. If you aren’t the absolute best of pals, however, then this may be a little more awkward as time gets on. This is why it’s best to do all you can to really cement the relationship you all have. Do you want to look at your best friends and feel as though you can trust them with all your heart? Do you want them to say they’d run through a brick wall for you if necessary? Well, here are a few things you all can do in order to boost the relationships and bring everyone closer than ever:

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Don’t Compete; Encourage Instead  
Most human beings are competitive in one way or another – that’s another trait that we’re born with. We want to strive to be better than those around us. It’s a healthy aspect as it encourages us all to be better versions of ourselves and makes us create a better world to inhabit. It’s not great if you get too deep with it regarding your friendships. Many people aren’t able to see that it drives a wedge between them and their pals – be sure to recognize this yourself. When your friend does well, don’t bring them down – boost them up even more!

Promote Honestly Between You All
If you have something to say to your friend, then say it. Holding back will do absolutely no good in the long-term. It may cause a problem that could’ve been solved ages before. It will also put doubt in their minds as to whether they can trust you going forward. Whether it’s a good thing or a bad thing, be sure to tell your friend. 

Don’t Expect Them To Be Perfect
As human beings, we tend to look for figures to be inspired by. Sometimes we want a little inspiration; sometimes, we want to straight-up worship. Just look at the God(s) billions of us around the globe pray to – we need that kind of leader; that kind of figure around us. Don’t expect your friend to be the perfect individual with all the answers, though! They’re flawed just like you. If they do something wrong, then accept it. Also, be sure not to compare them to other friends you’ve had in the past – that can get messy.

Create A Pact That’s Exclusive To You Guys
This is more of a niche idea and one that is caked in sentiment. It’s not for everyone, but such a commitment only cements the feelings you’ll all have for one another. It doesn’t have to be the most dramatic of deals, but it’s something that you could all agree to and stick to. 

Each of you doing a certain task at each other’s weddings is just one example. This next one is a more morbid idea and one that perhaps you wouldn’t want to think about for too long, but you could all decide to opt for a bracelet for cremation ashes if one of you were to depart sooner than expected. Of course, this hopefully will not happen, but the love and the meaning behind such a sentiment will bring that feeling of closeness even tighter. These kinds of amazing gestures would, again, reinforce the point that you’re all together as one.

Go To Work On Yourself Too
This is where we take a little break and go off on a slight tangent as we talk less about your friends and more about you personally. You need to improve yourself as a person. You need to boost your own confidence, self-esteem, and overall contentment. If you can do this, then you’ll be good to go regarding your friendships. If you feel better about yourself, then you’ll treat others better. They’ll then reciprocate. It’s a pretty simple idea, but one that not everyone realizes. Many people look to their relationships to help their lives out when they should be doing the work themselves. 

Agree To Meet At Organized Times 
Groups of friends often agree to meet all of the time – that’s not what we’re talking about, though. What we mean here is that you could perhaps have a traditional night in or a night out once every two or three weeks. Or perhaps weekly workout classes so you could all get in shape together. Make it your own little get-together. If you have that kind of plan and systematic approach, it can become a tradition that you simply do not want to miss - ever. 

Travel Together 
Getting around the world is something we should all do. We should all have the pleasure of seeing what this planet has to offer. Doing this kind of thing with the people you cherish would only make this kind of thing more special. You’ll witness amazing sights, go through strenuous times, and make memories together. They’ll all add up and make the friendship even stronger. 

Defend Them In Public  
This goes without saying, but we’ll say it anyway! When you hear someone speak ill about your friend when they’re not around, it’s your job to take their side. Don’t just do these things while they’re next to you; do it when they’re not around to defend themselves. If they’ve done something wrong in public, be sure to let them know about it in private. Don’t jump to berate them in front of the world – that’s not fair at all.

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