✨ How would it feel to fall madly in love with yourself?
And from that place, manifest the life of your dreams? ✨

“The most important relationship you have in life is the one you have with yourself. Because no matter what, you will always be with yourself.” - Diane Von Furstenberg

✨ THE SELF-LOVE GUIDE ✨

Here’s an easy-to-follow guide on how to love yourself in a way that actually changes your life.

Step 1: Self-forgiveness leads to freedom.

The power to fundamentally change your life begins with self-forgiveness. It removes the toxic emotional blocks of shame, guilt, and regret that keep you stuck in self-sabotage.

As long as you're holding onto the past or to the illusion that anything that you have done or has been done to you makes you unworthy of love, then you're not free to enjoy the exquisite beauty of life, which is loving yourself for exactly who you are.

To start your journey to self-forgiveness, use the journal prompt, 'I'm holding onto the belief that I don't deserve forgiveness because…'

Breathe deeply and let your subconscious mind flow. Don't edit or judge yourself; write down whatever comes up on the paper.

Now it's time to let these self-limiting beliefs go. Rip up the paper, toss it in the trash, or burn it, just symbolically show that you're ready to release the past and unburden yourself.

Next, on a fresh page of your journal, write out the affirmations 10 times, 'I deserve to be free. I'm so happy and grateful that I am now free of my past. I am forgiven. I forgive myself. I forgive everyone. I am free to be happy.' Feel free to add your own.

Repeat this releasing and self-forgiveness exercise as often as needed.

Step 2: Becoming your own best friend.

Self-talk is the most essential tool for learning how to love yourself. Write down all of the thoughts that you have about yourself for at least 24 hours — without editing or judgment.

Then, through the lens of compassion and not criticism, evaluate these thoughts. Are they self-affirming thoughts? Or are you constantly putting yourself down? Too fat? Too skinny? Not enough for that? Too much for this? Unlovable?

Ask yourself, is this the way I would talk to my best friend? Or to a child? Or to someone who I love unconditionally?

Journal for at least 10 minutes about where those negative thoughts came from. Childhood trauma? An ex? A family member? Society? Social media?

Next, cross out the unloving thoughts and replace them using this prompt, 'If I truly loved myself, what would I think about myself instead?' Breathe and allow the answer to come to you. Write it down.

Last, cross out the origin of where the negative self-thoughts came from, and continue journaling with the prompt, 'I am the source of my own self-worth. Today, I am deciding that I am…' Breathe and allow the answer to come to you. Write it down.

Whenever you notice negative thoughts start to creep back in, breathe, and ask yourself, 'If I truly loved myself, what would I think instead?'

Now, let your mind flow into the version of yourself that knows that you're worthy of your own love, respect, compassion, and forgiveness. Choose those thoughts.

Step 3: Boundaries allow you to love.

“Boundaries are the spaces that allow me to love you and myself at the same time.”

- Candy Washington

Knowing that your wants and needs matter is a crucial element in having a loving relationship with yourself. This is where boundaries come in.

In any relationship, boundaries define where things like our personhood, our identity, our responsibility, and our control begin and end relative to the other person.

If you're unsure of how to create healthy boundaries, then the following exercise will help you get clarity and a game plan.

Remember: Loving yourself first, best, and most is not being selfish. It's the hallmark of a healthy, evolved, and autonomous human being.

Get out your journal and on separate pages, create headers for each area that applies to you: romantic love, friendships, career, personal development, physical health, and family relationships.

Then, under each header, complete the journal prompt, 'In this area of my life, I feel resentment when… because…' and then, without judgment or editing, allow your subconscious mind to flow.

Once you've completed this exercise, then go back and complete this journal prompt for each area of resentment that comes up, 'To have peace in my life, I need… because I deserve… and I will…' Then, without judgment or editing, allow your subconscious mind to flow.

You now have a clear roadmap of the exact areas in your life where you need to establish healthy boundaries and the exact boundary that you need to establish.

Creating healthy boundaries is a powerful way to cultivate self-love. Having a clear line that protects your time, energy, and personal space, as well as your mental and physical well-being, is a foundational element in living a happy and fulfilled life.

IN ESSENCE
The purpose of life is learning to love yourself without conditions or apologies. I challenge you to step into the empowering freedom of letting go of the belief that anyone outside of yourself and the divine has the power to determine your worthiness.

Your higher self is waiting.

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